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John P Blodgett's avatar

One of my coworkers and I call each other out when we overhear the other engaging in negative self-talk. We say 'don't talk to my friend that way'. I've recently started saying it to myself when I catch myself talking to myself in a way i wouldn't let someone talk to a friend. There is something really liberating about referring to myself as 'my friend'.

Thanks for the other 10.

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JELLYDRAGON 🔥🐲's avatar

Today hasn't been the greatest.... got four job rejections, money is low, and I'm fighting tooth and nail to maintain hope.... this article gave just a little bit of comfort tbh......I'm scared, feel vulnerable, uncertain, and feel alone.... but I'm still trying to show up and make the best choices I can for my future self and the life I've been dreaming about.

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Anchal's avatar

Hey I see you, ive been going through the same thing, its scary but i know as long as you have a bed and food you’re good just focus on those two:))

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JELLYDRAGON 🔥🐲's avatar

I'll be homeless soon.....and just feel numb today...my layoff was devastating and the hunt for a new role has been brutal... working hard to turn it around..doing my damndest.

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Hala's avatar

I know for sure that one day you will get what ever you have dreamed about, Stay calm and trust the process

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Linda Benton's avatar

As I struggle each day with my husband's new normal: a diagnosis of early onset dementia/possible Alzheimer's, I swing - big emotional swings - from " I got this ! Separate the disease from the man I know & carry on." --- to "WTF is happening here??? Are we on track? Is there something else I should be doing?".... it's exhausting & I know being good to self is key!!! Because I KNOW -if I'm incapacitated emotionally or physically, we are both SUNK! It's a heavy burden but your blog post is so very helpful- you are wise beyond your years & I always find a little nugget that I can use.

Just the other day, a particularly down day-where I wanted to cry but knew it would accomplish nothing -I opened NOTES on my phone.....I began to write poetry... a poem to him -about remembering & feeling.... just putting words down made the burden lighter...your blog makes me feel lighter & empowered....like "it might not pretty or perfect" but I'm getting through.... thank you

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Jean Cuthbertson's avatar

As my husband is about to come out of hospital and I am asking my self can I cope with what’s ahead for both of us.

I’m getting a care package to help us through.

Not looking forward to the next few days weeks maybe even months your care advice is just what I need Thankyou for your suggestions and the feeling of not feeling the guilt of when you are struggling to understand and cope

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Joris's avatar

I agree with everything except for the green smoothie.

Never tried recording voice notes before to hear myself saying out loud what’s on my mind. I think I will try that.

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Sara's avatar

So needed this today

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Cassie Emmott's avatar

I'm in a (feels long) season of burnout with bursts if energy then more crashes, as my kids have disabilities and a lot of varied support needs. The words you write resonate deeply and are the thoughts that are in my head, but too jumbled and I'm too exhausted to write. Thank you. It's helping to hear your processing. And validating too.

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Arbina Dey's avatar

this is beautiful.

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sai's avatar

Thank youu. I really needed this today

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Cherryreads's avatar

sometimes showing up is enough. Half of the battle is showing up.

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Abby's avatar

I feel seen

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Wendy WC's avatar

So simple and beautiful. Thank you.

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Bethany Manning's avatar

Love this and it’s currently very relevant. I live alone without a partner or children. My parents are both deceased. My two brothers have lives of their own and live far away from me. I’m retired and have very little interaction with others. However, I’ve found ways to connect to others. I’m enrolled in two online classes which I enjoy. I also enjoy working in the gardens, feeding the birds and occasionally speaking to my neighbor.

Unfortunately, I fractured my left arm humerus bone the end of June. I must wearing a stabilizing device 24/7 for 6 weeks. I see my Orthopedic surgeon later this week. If everything goes according to plan, I should be able to begin 6 weeks of physical therapy to help regain most of my mobility. Of course this happened at the beginning of the summer season when I love to be outside connecting with nature, walking and going to the beach. I’m stuck in the house. I can’t drive. Trying to take a shower and get dressed with one arm is very difficult and painful. I can’t motivate myself to do much of anything except watch TV. I feel productive and happy when I cook myself a proper dinner, read a book or call a friend. I’m not journaling, doing my daily yoga practice, cleaning the house and doing laundry. I constantly talk negative to myself. I’m trying very hard to take tiny steps towards being my normal self, very productive, organized and loving my myself and my life. Thank you for this post. This is exactly what I needed to read today. ❤️

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Hala's avatar

Dear Bethany, I am sure everything will be great, it’s only a matter of time. And you will get back to your routine!

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Touhida's avatar

ah loved this reminder, sometimes we make life hard. i hope i can show up for myself with kindness

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Andrea Marshall's avatar

Love this SO much.

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Robyn Violanda's avatar

i need this rn

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