Every time I see your work in my inbox, I pause everything I'm doing just to read it. This is beautiful. I've never seen zero days as a moment to just pause. I'd always force myself to do something. I'm learning.
I love this, I love the idea of a zero day and I hope that someday I can have a day free from my own and external expectations. BUT it *is* a privilege to have them and i think that should be acknowledged. Those in the lower working class, those who have dependents, or both, those who don’t have other systems of support to rely on may rarely or never have this. I agree that these zero days are essential to survival, but I also acknowledge that I and others may not get one for a long long time and it’s no failing of ours for being unable to (tho I don’t think you were trying to imply that. I think you were just sharing something soft and good in your life that you probably had to work to get to) Anyways if anyone is reading this you deserve all the gentleness you can find and I hope you can find moments of rest.
“no good comes from holding myself up against a standard i didn’t agree to in the first place. “ - what a powerful sentiment!! I loved this essay , thank you for sharing
“trees shed their leaves in winter, not because they have failed at being trees, but because they are conserving energy for what’s next.”
This post couldn’t have come at a better time, I have just read it now this morning and it hit me, even when I have convinced myself I have had a “zero day”, I have done something to justify it and still had some level of productivity, no wonder my mind never turns off. Thank you for unapologetically sharing this.
Zero days. I love that. I’ve been calling them “rotting” or “gremlin” days but those terms, while a little funny, still have negative connotations implying that I’m doing something wrong or lazy or icky. Zero days feels more neutral and less pressure. Thank you for this piece and offering an opportunity to reframe 🤍
I’m a therapist and have been trying to communicate this exact message to some of my clients (and *cough* myself)… mostly overwhelmed moms with a mental load to last a lifetime. Thank you for the words, ideas, reminder, permission. Rest is resistance - an aligned movement.
Just what I needed. Your writing always makes my shoulders drop, my breathing settle, my heart feel a bit lighter. Thanks for the reminders to be more kind and gentle to ourselves and savour the slow moments.
This post is beautiful. Today was a zero day for me, though it was filled with guilt. I’ll be more gentle with myself on the next one, thanks to you.🙌🏽💜✨
I try do this on Saturdays and it is sooo healing!! I find that it doesn't just help me on the zero day, but sustains me the whole week, because I know have a day of true and total relaxation coming! Thanks for this essay!
Damn you write very well,, I always check your page if u did write sth and u never disapoint ,,,You're sooo good cause now I know what to call those days "Zero Days" and they're not wasted days
i struggle finding balance with rest and productivity. but im coming to realise that resting and taking pleasure in small things makes life 100x more enjoyable. this post is a nice reminder of this :)
Your words are inspiration and the embodiment of the feeling of being seen within written form, a comforting hug and a glimmer of hope. Thank you for your beautiful writing and sharing it with all of us. You have such a gift🤍
As a musician I love the last line- the space between the notes make the music possible- I used to tell my students to pay attention to the rests and pauses in the music. Without them, the song would be extremely limited and boring- no rhythm or syncopation! We also need that rest!
Every time I see your work in my inbox, I pause everything I'm doing just to read it. This is beautiful. I've never seen zero days as a moment to just pause. I'd always force myself to do something. I'm learning.
I love this, I love the idea of a zero day and I hope that someday I can have a day free from my own and external expectations. BUT it *is* a privilege to have them and i think that should be acknowledged. Those in the lower working class, those who have dependents, or both, those who don’t have other systems of support to rely on may rarely or never have this. I agree that these zero days are essential to survival, but I also acknowledge that I and others may not get one for a long long time and it’s no failing of ours for being unable to (tho I don’t think you were trying to imply that. I think you were just sharing something soft and good in your life that you probably had to work to get to) Anyways if anyone is reading this you deserve all the gentleness you can find and I hope you can find moments of rest.
“no good comes from holding myself up against a standard i didn’t agree to in the first place. “ - what a powerful sentiment!! I loved this essay , thank you for sharing
“trees shed their leaves in winter, not because they have failed at being trees, but because they are conserving energy for what’s next.”
This post couldn’t have come at a better time, I have just read it now this morning and it hit me, even when I have convinced myself I have had a “zero day”, I have done something to justify it and still had some level of productivity, no wonder my mind never turns off. Thank you for unapologetically sharing this.
Zero days. I love that. I’ve been calling them “rotting” or “gremlin” days but those terms, while a little funny, still have negative connotations implying that I’m doing something wrong or lazy or icky. Zero days feels more neutral and less pressure. Thank you for this piece and offering an opportunity to reframe 🤍
I’m a therapist and have been trying to communicate this exact message to some of my clients (and *cough* myself)… mostly overwhelmed moms with a mental load to last a lifetime. Thank you for the words, ideas, reminder, permission. Rest is resistance - an aligned movement.
Just what I needed. Your writing always makes my shoulders drop, my breathing settle, my heart feel a bit lighter. Thanks for the reminders to be more kind and gentle to ourselves and savour the slow moments.
This post is beautiful. Today was a zero day for me, though it was filled with guilt. I’ll be more gentle with myself on the next one, thanks to you.🙌🏽💜✨
Thank you for this essay,love your writing so much.
I try do this on Saturdays and it is sooo healing!! I find that it doesn't just help me on the zero day, but sustains me the whole week, because I know have a day of true and total relaxation coming! Thanks for this essay!
I’m trying to do this on Sundays. My brain really needs a day with very limited demands and things to do
Just reading this made me feel relaxed!
Damn you write very well,, I always check your page if u did write sth and u never disapoint ,,,You're sooo good cause now I know what to call those days "Zero Days" and they're not wasted days
i struggle finding balance with rest and productivity. but im coming to realise that resting and taking pleasure in small things makes life 100x more enjoyable. this post is a nice reminder of this :)
Your words are inspiration and the embodiment of the feeling of being seen within written form, a comforting hug and a glimmer of hope. Thank you for your beautiful writing and sharing it with all of us. You have such a gift🤍
I love this. Since the 90s I have watched the Before Sunrise trilogy whenever I want to feel like I’m visiting with friends.
As a musician I love the last line- the space between the notes make the music possible- I used to tell my students to pay attention to the rests and pauses in the music. Without them, the song would be extremely limited and boring- no rhythm or syncopation! We also need that rest!