everyone talks about self-love as if it’s the final destination but i’ve learned that trusting myself, really trusting the choices i make, the instincts i follow, the boundaries i hold….
“we’ll listen to strangers on social media before we’ll listen to our own bodies, our own exhaustion, our own joy. we’ll scroll through advice columns looking for permission to do what we already know we need to do. we’ll call it “seeking clarity,” but what we’re really doing is outsourcing our courage.”
I never ever thought of it this way. I am first to be on the ever rolling windmill of constant “seeking clarity”, never been able to stop it, but now I see why - I was actually looking for *my* courage within the minds of other people. Well, dang.
Thank you, once again, for having a way with words that is pure magic and sharing it with us ❤️
'it’s choosing not to betray your own gut feelings just because someone else doesn’t understand them.'. THIS. By outsourcing and doubting, I've betrayed myself over & over. I think the lack of self love allows you to continue doing that. The betrayals start to hurt.....so I guess this is what it means to be authentic. And like you say, the self love allows for room to get it wrong....
I’d never recognized the difference between self-trust and self-love, which is ironic because I did recognize and often spent a lot of time analyzing the difference between the two in romantic relationships. This feels so well-timed and gives me a lot to think about.
I really appreciate your insights here and and practical knowledge on how self trust has to be built and tips to get there.
I never had thought of framing this this way. Wether it’s in my writing, art, career or mothering self trust matters so much, I am so glad I read this on the wee hours of the morning, thank you 🙏🏻
What a great post - “living in alignment with yourself” and “what do I want” were just two lines that really struck me- thank you - it’s prompted me to journal on this as my life right now is at a cross roads due to changes to my life forced upon me ! But it’s my life and I will live it in alignment with who I am and my purpose
i recently had to walk away from something that wasn’t good for me, and no one told me to. i just knew i had to. the guilt was so heavy, esp knowing it hurt the other person, even if he’s the one who pushed me away. but walking away felt like a way of building self-trust. like telling myself, “if it’s not good for me, i can let go.” it was so hard though. i prayed so much for strength. this post really put into words what i’ve been feeling. thank you.
This was a very beautiful piece. I just made a major decision today which involved weighing how happy I really am by myself vs with someone else who I think I could've been a good fit with but ultimately chose to listen to myself and keep things as they are. There were no signs pointing in either direction and it was one of the few times I really felt as if I was at a crossroads and there was the likelihood of taking either path was equal—I truly had to trust myself. Thank you for writing this!
Oh, gosh, I feel so seen 🥺
“we’ll listen to strangers on social media before we’ll listen to our own bodies, our own exhaustion, our own joy. we’ll scroll through advice columns looking for permission to do what we already know we need to do. we’ll call it “seeking clarity,” but what we’re really doing is outsourcing our courage.”
I never ever thought of it this way. I am first to be on the ever rolling windmill of constant “seeking clarity”, never been able to stop it, but now I see why - I was actually looking for *my* courage within the minds of other people. Well, dang.
Thank you, once again, for having a way with words that is pure magic and sharing it with us ❤️
This is exactly what I needed to hear. I think it’s valuable to focus on developing self-trust to live a life that is authentic and fulfilling.
'it’s choosing not to betray your own gut feelings just because someone else doesn’t understand them.'. THIS. By outsourcing and doubting, I've betrayed myself over & over. I think the lack of self love allows you to continue doing that. The betrayals start to hurt.....so I guess this is what it means to be authentic. And like you say, the self love allows for room to get it wrong....
This was so warm to read
I’d never recognized the difference between self-trust and self-love, which is ironic because I did recognize and often spent a lot of time analyzing the difference between the two in romantic relationships. This feels so well-timed and gives me a lot to think about.
I really appreciate your insights here and and practical knowledge on how self trust has to be built and tips to get there.
Awesome read, really loving your stuff. Thanks!
This is very powerful and relevant for me.This is because I have started taking baby steps in the direction of self-trust.Thank you
This post is so timely. Thank you so much for putting the complexities and challenges of life into beautiful words.
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I never had thought of framing this this way. Wether it’s in my writing, art, career or mothering self trust matters so much, I am so glad I read this on the wee hours of the morning, thank you 🙏🏻
Thank you so much for your insight. Love can help me where I am, but trust helps me move forward.
This was everything
What a great post - “living in alignment with yourself” and “what do I want” were just two lines that really struck me- thank you - it’s prompted me to journal on this as my life right now is at a cross roads due to changes to my life forced upon me ! But it’s my life and I will live it in alignment with who I am and my purpose
i recently had to walk away from something that wasn’t good for me, and no one told me to. i just knew i had to. the guilt was so heavy, esp knowing it hurt the other person, even if he’s the one who pushed me away. but walking away felt like a way of building self-trust. like telling myself, “if it’s not good for me, i can let go.” it was so hard though. i prayed so much for strength. this post really put into words what i’ve been feeling. thank you.
This was so timely for me - thank you!!
Wow
This was a very beautiful piece. I just made a major decision today which involved weighing how happy I really am by myself vs with someone else who I think I could've been a good fit with but ultimately chose to listen to myself and keep things as they are. There were no signs pointing in either direction and it was one of the few times I really felt as if I was at a crossroads and there was the likelihood of taking either path was equal—I truly had to trust myself. Thank you for writing this!
So wise and so helpful. Thank you for this ❤️