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Caroline Beuley's avatar

“The grind doesn’t love us back” !! Yesss - this.

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Joss's avatar

“a life well-lived isn’t measured by milestones achieved but by the quality of our experiences” — this is beautiful. Such a brilliant piece fr

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Arkady Orlunda's avatar

I'll be honest - I was skeptical at first, until I realised my attachment to my need for constant productivity was the source of this skepticism and that that was the exact point being made here. Wonderful article with a poetic conclusion!

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✧・゚:*perfume as poetry✧・゚:*'s avatar

This resonates so deeply with me as a chronic people pleaser and corporate climber who is learning to rewire their brain and start new 🥲 so beautifully written 🖤

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The Daisy Flower's avatar

I really resonated with what you wrote. Slowly, I'm realizing this. We have so little time during the day for ourselves and if we try to do everything wellness experts say: medidate, journal, practice self care, drink this, drink that - we end up feeling overwhelmed and like a failure because we can't do everything, nor should we.

Instead, we should find a routine that truly benefits us and create moments where we can just be, we can just exist and be present in the moment. I've started doing this and it really changed my perspective. The worls is always in such a rush, making us believe we need to be always chasing something. But we don't.

As you beautifully said, our worth is in simply being.

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xiomarra milann's avatar

I've started writing in my weekly planner "find time to do NOTHING" as a way to remind myself to pause between the seemingly never ending to-do list of things. Nothing can be taking a nap, or watching a movie with my kids, or just staring at the wall to give my brain a break. I just like having the visual command as a jolt reminder in my planner.

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mercury's avatar

thjs hits so hard!! the moment i reframed things and them for personal enjoyment rather than conforming to expectations life just became so much easier. thank you for writing 🫶

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Bee's avatar

This was so refreshing to read as the world is collapsing and a patriarchal view of “hustle mindset” is pushed onto us, it’s important to remember to enjoy little moments for ourselves.

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Félicia Mariani's avatar

Why "little moments"? All the time, all our remaining time on Earth :-)

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Anttx's avatar

Just what I needed in this period of my life.

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Orion's District's avatar

yes!!!

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Kavit Haria's avatar

Great writing and exceptional piece

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Daisy Elle's avatar

"living effortlessly doesn’t mean being lazy—it means being intentional. it means choosing to exist for yourself, rather than performing for a world that never seems to be satisfied" yes. yes. yes.

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Hayley's avatar

"it’s about letting the world rush past you while you find your own rhythm, not because you’re falling behind, but because you’ve chosen to step out of a game you no longer wish to play."

Yesssss 🙏❤️

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Sophie_at_AMC's avatar

It's been inculcated into us that we must be productive because that is where we derive our worth. We are successful if we are worthy. We must compare ourselves to others and be just as successful or more so. That way of thinking isn't inherent. We don't just randomly decide one day that we need to be busy at all times or else we are wasting time. We are responsible for changing the mindset and giving ourselves permission to just be.

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Untangled Thoughts's avatar

I’ve been feeling this pendulum swing so deeply. As a chronic “busy” person who measure life’s success by productivity, I am craving the nothingness. The release from the trap. “Reclaiming the human experience”, precisely. Thank you for putting this into words.

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Charlotte Cropper's avatar

Such a beautiful and refreshing read

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Phoebe Grace's avatar

This rewired my brain this morning -- thank you.

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