there was a time when i thought self-care had to be loud—morning alarms at 5 am, skincare routines with 12 steps, planners filled with color-coded tasks.
"some nights, i watch a show i’ve already seen a hundred times" this makes me feel so much better about having already watched gilmore girls 13 times since 2018.
I do the same thing and always thought the habit was a waste of time or an excuse to avoid doing something more productive. Now I'll look at it as a way to comfort myself.
One of the best things I ever did was to live Tweet the Gilmore Girls during the Gilmore the Merrier marathons for UPtv. My job has had a lot of fun moments for sure.
Doing things at 70% (or lower), and allowing myself to do this badly have been life changing concepts for me over the past year. I remember seeing a Tumblr post of all things that’s like “If it’s something worth doing it’s worth doing badly” and I always repeat that to myself when I’m feeling stuck. Usually, once I get started, the tasks magically dwindle too!
Bravo! Contrast this to Leslie Stephens "Morning Person" newsletter today. No disrespect--I love her newsletter to death, but I don't have her Type personality and drive. We're all different humans, with varying energy and stages of life. I relate to your routine in every single way. "Low-effort joy" is right up my wheelhouse.
that newsletter brings up really complicated emotions for me. it's a see-saw of "105 Things to Do to Organize Your Life Better" and "65 Ways to Slow Down." it's like one side of the brain isn't talking to the other.
Thank you both for voicing this. I also love, love her newsletter, but you've voiced a lingering feeling that I hadn't been able to fully pinpoint. I'm in such a sad, unproductive, un-optimized season of my life and low-effort joy was exactly the balm my fragile lil heart needed!
this makes me so happy. when i was depressed i struggled so badly with low energy. now that i’m doing better, it’s been so difficult to capture that in words & give advice. moving forward at 70% is a game changer! and keeping a soft item nearby is so thoughtful. thank you for this
I love this, but especially #6. I've struggled with the term "self-care." While I know it's important to take care of yourself, sometimes that does feel hard or unclear. I love your reframe, thank you!
„wearing perfume even when i’m home“ - i do so, too and for me it’s self-love, being generös with myself. Love all the ideas, will take some into my every day life ♥️
The Jeff Bezos couture works for work, as well. Find a good outfit. Buy several pairs of whatever is in it, if that is affordable. Wear it every day. Congratulations! You have added back a few hours per week into your life and divorced yourself from endless frustration. If you are wondering when you wore the outfit last, the answer will always be 'yesterday,' so that is one less thing to worry about as well.
Thanks for the 'likes' from fellow sub-stackers, but I was, of course, wrong in my attribution. It was Steve Jobs, not Jeff Bezos, who rocked the Sameness Style Wardrobe. Humble apologies!
"some nights, i watch a show i’ve already seen a hundred times" this makes me feel so much better about having already watched gilmore girls 13 times since 2018.
same there’s literally no better comfort show
I do the same thing and always thought the habit was a waste of time or an excuse to avoid doing something more productive. Now I'll look at it as a way to comfort myself.
why don't they create epic shows like that anymore? love it!
Gilmore Girls is my go to show as well!
One of the best things I ever did was to live Tweet the Gilmore Girls during the Gilmore the Merrier marathons for UPtv. My job has had a lot of fun moments for sure.
Doing things at 70% (or lower), and allowing myself to do this badly have been life changing concepts for me over the past year. I remember seeing a Tumblr post of all things that’s like “If it’s something worth doing it’s worth doing badly” and I always repeat that to myself when I’m feeling stuck. Usually, once I get started, the tasks magically dwindle too!
Bravo! Contrast this to Leslie Stephens "Morning Person" newsletter today. No disrespect--I love her newsletter to death, but I don't have her Type personality and drive. We're all different humans, with varying energy and stages of life. I relate to your routine in every single way. "Low-effort joy" is right up my wheelhouse.
that newsletter brings up really complicated emotions for me. it's a see-saw of "105 Things to Do to Organize Your Life Better" and "65 Ways to Slow Down." it's like one side of the brain isn't talking to the other.
Thank you both for voicing this. I also love, love her newsletter, but you've voiced a lingering feeling that I hadn't been able to fully pinpoint. I'm in such a sad, unproductive, un-optimized season of my life and low-effort joy was exactly the balm my fragile lil heart needed!
this makes me so happy. when i was depressed i struggled so badly with low energy. now that i’m doing better, it’s been so difficult to capture that in words & give advice. moving forward at 70% is a game changer! and keeping a soft item nearby is so thoughtful. thank you for this
depression core 🩵
Reading this was comforting, the Japanese jazz am stealing that . Thank you .
I love this, but especially #6. I've struggled with the term "self-care." While I know it's important to take care of yourself, sometimes that does feel hard or unclear. I love your reframe, thank you!
this was lovely. it kinda made me tear up im not gonna lie. felt like a good brain scratch.
"good brain scratch" -- wonderful description!
„wearing perfume even when i’m home“ - i do so, too and for me it’s self-love, being generös with myself. Love all the ideas, will take some into my every day life ♥️
this is so so so beautiful. i really did need this.
made my week <3
the go to outfit is genuinely such a good idea im stealing that thank you
The Jeff Bezos couture works for work, as well. Find a good outfit. Buy several pairs of whatever is in it, if that is affordable. Wear it every day. Congratulations! You have added back a few hours per week into your life and divorced yourself from endless frustration. If you are wondering when you wore the outfit last, the answer will always be 'yesterday,' so that is one less thing to worry about as well.
Thanks for the 'likes' from fellow sub-stackers, but I was, of course, wrong in my attribution. It was Steve Jobs, not Jeff Bezos, who rocked the Sameness Style Wardrobe. Humble apologies!
Reading this newsletter made me feel better. This is my low energy joy this evening ❤️ thanks
This newsletter is like a warm blanket. The wine glass trick is so true, thanks for the reminder!🍷
This is really great- may I ask if you’ll share your background playlist ?
You have literally written my favourite newsletter of 2025 already ❤️
This is beautiful! Low lighting, the sound of rain against the window, soft blankets and socks. 🙏
I loveeeee this! 🔮