SO powerful. I’ve always felt uncomfortable with gratitude stuff. It has never made me feel good. It seemed to be something that others have set out for me. I am grateful for the life I have built. I forget the ‘I’ sometimes
I am so sorry for your loss, Sandra. I'm sure this is inadequate in light of it, but I just want you to know that there are people, mothers out here thinking of you...
spot on, babes. after a dozen rejections, what you have beautifully articulated is what my inner struggle is. anywho, im still going. still fighting for the tenderness i yearn for.
My problem is I never know if what I long for is out of envy and comparison to someone else (or because society tells me I should want it) or because I really deeply want it. I never trust my inner self.
Thank you so much for sharing, I will come back to this in the future.
Same exact problem haha. So much of what I want is because of my lack of confidence telling me I’m not enough myself. Or a deep need of validation from society and others.
A few months ago I felt drawn to write something long from like this about want and wanting, and I never hashed it out fully myself. I feel like this is what I was wanting to write. Thank you for writing this - I feel seen and understood and I cried. ✨
Ambivalence. The black slopes of emotions. It doesn’t have to be either/or. It’s about embracing both/and. Gratitude is the highest of vibrational planes. It’s a healthy practice. But. While I’m grateful to have a job that pays the bills I can desire something way more fulfilling and less stressful. Doesn’t mean I’m not still grateful. I love the beautiful way you’ve navigated the gray areas. Still feels like you’re living in my head.
This masterpiece is something that I have been waiting to hear for a long time. Thank you so much for putting it into words in such a beautiful and understandable way.
with the messaging around gratitude, i feel that it is often held up as the antithesis or even antidote to desire. your piece is so well written and has definitely opened my mind to how contentment and desire are meant to coexist. plus, as a recent grad, your words really strike a chord with me. i am so grateful for my degree and the life i’ve built for myself, that i almost feel guilty for wanting more out of my post grad life. but i’ve learned that both of these truths are what come together to help me remain whole as i evolve. thank you for sharing :)
This article feels like a warm hug for my (sometime) quiet fridge mind. I have been struggling with allowing myself to peruse things that seem scary because they’re not what society tells me I should be doing. I’m such a day dreamer. Imagining and building a world for myself that I think I would love to live in but get so scared people are going to judge me for chasing after those dreams. It would be so much easier to continue to live the life that seems to be laying out in front of me. Be I’ve began to allow myself to chase after those bigger dreams in small steps but taking slower moment to come back to who I am and what I have in the present moment.
it all leaves to one rationale, we are all human and part of it comes from within of contentment and gratitude. i feel like when people defines (if you let them) your contentment, it was sabotaged or misplaced. some assesses you to be privileged yet ignorant to look in the darker side where people wishes to have your lifestyle because of your striving.
therefore, it was never the fault of a person to feel the drive whether the circumstance gives to define a "content" lifestyle because that's perceptive. allow yourself to feel and filter in/out of what people has to say. be full with your gratitude in your own way, and be driven by your own desires.
thank you for this, author! 🤍 i loved how this article felt me.
I wonder if we’re starting to experience “toxic gratitude.” With all the messaging around being grateful, it can start to feel performative.
SO powerful. I’ve always felt uncomfortable with gratitude stuff. It has never made me feel good. It seemed to be something that others have set out for me. I am grateful for the life I have built. I forget the ‘I’ sometimes
I am so sorry for your loss, Sandra. I'm sure this is inadequate in light of it, but I just want you to know that there are people, mothers out here thinking of you...
spot on, babes. after a dozen rejections, what you have beautifully articulated is what my inner struggle is. anywho, im still going. still fighting for the tenderness i yearn for.
That is so accuate!
My problem is I never know if what I long for is out of envy and comparison to someone else (or because society tells me I should want it) or because I really deeply want it. I never trust my inner self.
Thank you so much for sharing, I will come back to this in the future.
Same exact problem haha. So much of what I want is because of my lack of confidence telling me I’m not enough myself. Or a deep need of validation from society and others.
Hey! Why don’t you share your love for writing with others through a workshop? I’d love to be part of this. 🤍
A few months ago I felt drawn to write something long from like this about want and wanting, and I never hashed it out fully myself. I feel like this is what I was wanting to write. Thank you for writing this - I feel seen and understood and I cried. ✨
So we'll described ! The dichotomy of values and the hidden polarities .
Ambivalence. The black slopes of emotions. It doesn’t have to be either/or. It’s about embracing both/and. Gratitude is the highest of vibrational planes. It’s a healthy practice. But. While I’m grateful to have a job that pays the bills I can desire something way more fulfilling and less stressful. Doesn’t mean I’m not still grateful. I love the beautiful way you’ve navigated the gray areas. Still feels like you’re living in my head.
This masterpiece is something that I have been waiting to hear for a long time. Thank you so much for putting it into words in such a beautiful and understandable way.
Love this.
Yes I relate to always comparing myself to others.
It has made me question ... is it the loud voice or the little quiet voice inside me that desires more?
Mostly comparing myself in terms of career. I'm always saying these "should" statements.. I "should be higher up in my career by now.
How to quiet that voice?
May I ask why you don't use capital letters in your text?
Made me cry.
this is so spot on. i've also been struggling with my inner self about wanting more but also trying to appreciate what i have.
with the messaging around gratitude, i feel that it is often held up as the antithesis or even antidote to desire. your piece is so well written and has definitely opened my mind to how contentment and desire are meant to coexist. plus, as a recent grad, your words really strike a chord with me. i am so grateful for my degree and the life i’ve built for myself, that i almost feel guilty for wanting more out of my post grad life. but i’ve learned that both of these truths are what come together to help me remain whole as i evolve. thank you for sharing :)
This article feels like a warm hug for my (sometime) quiet fridge mind. I have been struggling with allowing myself to peruse things that seem scary because they’re not what society tells me I should be doing. I’m such a day dreamer. Imagining and building a world for myself that I think I would love to live in but get so scared people are going to judge me for chasing after those dreams. It would be so much easier to continue to live the life that seems to be laying out in front of me. Be I’ve began to allow myself to chase after those bigger dreams in small steps but taking slower moment to come back to who I am and what I have in the present moment.
it all leaves to one rationale, we are all human and part of it comes from within of contentment and gratitude. i feel like when people defines (if you let them) your contentment, it was sabotaged or misplaced. some assesses you to be privileged yet ignorant to look in the darker side where people wishes to have your lifestyle because of your striving.
therefore, it was never the fault of a person to feel the drive whether the circumstance gives to define a "content" lifestyle because that's perceptive. allow yourself to feel and filter in/out of what people has to say. be full with your gratitude in your own way, and be driven by your own desires.
thank you for this, author! 🤍 i loved how this article felt me.