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Julia Skinner's avatar

SO powerful. I’ve always felt uncomfortable with gratitude stuff. It has never made me feel good. It seemed to be something that others have set out for me. I am grateful for the life I have built. I forget the ‘I’ sometimes

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Julia K.'s avatar

I am so sorry for your loss, Sandra. I'm sure this is inadequate in light of it, but I just want you to know that there are people, mothers out here thinking of you...

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Pamela Clapp's avatar

I wonder if we’re starting to experience “toxic gratitude.” With all the messaging around being grateful, it can start to feel performative.

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gellie's avatar

spot on, babes. after a dozen rejections, what you have beautifully articulated is what my inner struggle is. anywho, im still going. still fighting for the tenderness i yearn for.

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C ✨'s avatar

That is so accuate!

My problem is I never know if what I long for is out of envy and comparison to someone else (or because society tells me I should want it) or because I really deeply want it. I never trust my inner self.

Thank you so much for sharing, I will come back to this in the future.

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Rayika's avatar

Same exact problem haha. So much of what I want is because of my lack of confidence telling me I’m not enough myself. Or a deep need of validation from society and others.

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May khaled's avatar

Hey! Why don’t you share your love for writing with others through a workshop? I’d love to be part of this. 🤍

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Haley's avatar

A few months ago I felt drawn to write something long from like this about want and wanting, and I never hashed it out fully myself. I feel like this is what I was wanting to write. Thank you for writing this - I feel seen and understood and I cried. ✨

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Kirti Bakshi's avatar

So we'll described ! The dichotomy of values and the hidden polarities .

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Tresa Beard's avatar

Ambivalence. The black slopes of emotions. It doesn’t have to be either/or. It’s about embracing both/and. Gratitude is the highest of vibrational planes. It’s a healthy practice. But. While I’m grateful to have a job that pays the bills I can desire something way more fulfilling and less stressful. Doesn’t mean I’m not still grateful. I love the beautiful way you’ve navigated the gray areas. Still feels like you’re living in my head.

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Irmak Özkara's avatar

This masterpiece is something that I have been waiting to hear for a long time. Thank you so much for putting it into words in such a beautiful and understandable way.

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Jane Corbett's avatar

Love this.

Yes I relate to always comparing myself to others.

It has made me question ... is it the loud voice or the little quiet voice inside me that desires more?

Mostly comparing myself in terms of career. I'm always saying these "should" statements.. I "should be higher up in my career by now.

How to quiet that voice?

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Evie's avatar

May I ask why you don't use capital letters in your text?

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Lucy's avatar

This spoke to me so deeply…thank you ❤️

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liv's avatar

this is so beautiful. it was like reading about my own life. i absolutely loved it.

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Faceless's avatar

This is a great topic.

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Carlota Álvarez's avatar

Really really inspiring. Thank you so much♥️

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max's avatar

that last paragraph had me in tears. thank you for your kind words.

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