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Ed Camera's avatar

Great advice, I'm just not sure how to execute it! Seriously, everyone needs to parent themselves

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Jesslyn Guntur's avatar

Same, execution is the hardest! Everything feels too passive, but I guess the intention behind it is the point?

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Alenka's avatar

My, oh, my, something about the way you write… ❤️

“and so that’s what i tell myself now, out loud, in the mirror, like a weirdo. because weird is better than unwell.”

Thank you for the permission I didn’t know how to give to myself, to sometimes act “weird”, to not always know everything, to eat that bowl (or two!) of ice-cream on my way back to myself, well - to be human. Uff 🥺

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Melissa Brooke's avatar

Hi - just wanted to let you know how much your posts mean to me and how you beautifully speak the words I so deeply feel and need to hear. Your guidance and way of sharing these nuanced life thoughts is truly wonderful. I can’t afford to subscribe to things right now, but I’m here reading everything I can. Please don’t stop!

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Salahudeen Gbolahan's avatar

Beautiful. Beautiful. Beautiful. Thanks for putting this out, especially for non-paid subscribers. You are changing lives, in case you don't. May life reward you with goodness and kindness. ❤️

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Jennifer's avatar

You have a way with words that has me feeling like you’re living my existence and gently telling me what I need to do to love myself when I don’t know how. Thank you.

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Nori's avatar

I feel exactly the same.. as if all her words were written especially to me. These writtings are such a support to me. ❤️ And a part of me also afraid that she will stop it one day…

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Dominika Borowiec's avatar

This is a beautiful way of describing what I've been learning lately.

Being your own support system, your own rope that holds up the weight of climbing it back up etc…

All those metaphores for self care and self love never quite fit the actual action. It didint describe how vulnerable and hard it is to show up for oneself. They never quite explained it how.

What you wrote here is just such a good way of combining all the aspects of actual care, love, hardships and resistance in one perfectly suited phrase.

“Parenting myself.”

Thank you for that!

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Nick Halley's avatar

Beautifully said. Choosing softness in a world that rewards sharp edges is emotional intelligence in action. It takes more strength to stay present and grounded than to react. This kind of quiet leadership creates real trust. Grateful you gave language to it.

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Carol Anne Lesser's avatar

I love this, thank you. I really needed this today as a mom of 2 little boys, I'm feeling very overwhelmed with the constant tasks of summer and really need to parent myself better, even as I'm taking care of them. Ugh I'm exhausted. Time to go for a walk by the river while both boys are out of the house.

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inner_rey's avatar

this is such an inspiring read! it has really resonated with me as a student navigating the complexities of adulting. I realized how hard it is to parent yourself when you’ve had an unstable relationship with parenting your whole life. But I’m slowly learning and this has really helped me to understand my emotions as well as on techniques on how to properly process them🫶🏻

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Ruth Clark's avatar

It’s like you’re sitting in on my therapy sessions :) I feel this deeply in bones. Thank you for reminding me that I’m not alone.

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Aisha's avatar

Beautiful read 🤍

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Mollye Miller Shehadeh's avatar

oh and i wanted to ask: are the photos yours too? or where do you get them from. They're so intriguing and fit the tone and feel of your writing so much. i'm curious (as a photographer myself too ;))

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Mollye Miller Shehadeh's avatar

i always look forward to your pieces. thank you for YOU and your manifold insights <3

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Rebecca's avatar

I think I'll be coming back to this one many times. The way you describe these self-perceptions resonated deeply, and just reading how you reframe and overcome them was healing. Thank you for this!

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christine marie's avatar

this came at such a perfect time! i think this is one of my favorites. i’ll come back to this when i need support to parent myself. 🫧

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Let's Reset's avatar

Really powerful and practical piece! Liked the bits around de-escalating language and ritualising the comeback. Thanks for sharing!

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