Coming from a youngest daughter, I became the oldest in mentality at a young age. My sister was constantly in trouble and even grounded for a whole year at one point, so I learned to be the “perfect” daughter. I learned how to sneak around and do the things that teenagers my age were doing. Granted it led to me being SA’ed twice and to this day I feel like I failed. I’m not in a huge university at the moment, but I feel as though I should be because I was the sibling that was supposed to get out unscathed and help the rest. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. But it helped me to realise that I need help with asking for what I need. I wish people talked about the parentified youngest daughter.
As an only child myself, I feel all this at a deeper level. Feeling mature for your age is for sure a feeling we all are well aware with. Somehow, having no siblings just makes us so much more different than the ones who do. But, what makes us responsible, is, a constant reminder that we are there for our parents at all times because who else will be. We are the only ones they have given birth to.
Coming from a youngest daughter, I became the oldest in mentality at a young age. My sister was constantly in trouble and even grounded for a whole year at one point, so I learned to be the “perfect” daughter. I learned how to sneak around and do the things that teenagers my age were doing. Granted it led to me being SA’ed twice and to this day I feel like I failed. I’m not in a huge university at the moment, but I feel as though I should be because I was the sibling that was supposed to get out unscathed and help the rest. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. But it helped me to realise that I need help with asking for what I need. I wish people talked about the parentified youngest daughter.
As an only child myself, I feel all this at a deeper level. Feeling mature for your age is for sure a feeling we all are well aware with. Somehow, having no siblings just makes us so much more different than the ones who do. But, what makes us responsible, is, a constant reminder that we are there for our parents at all times because who else will be. We are the only ones they have given birth to.
A great read!!✨