10 weekend rituals that are saving my overstimulated brain
partnering with Brooklinen to bring you the rituals that made me fall in love with rest again.
i think a lot about noise. not the obvious kind — not sirens or notifications or the baby crying while the kettle whistles — but the kind of emotional noise you carry around quietly. the tension in your jaw that’s been there since tuesday. the invisible pressure to optimize your sunday. the mental tabs left open from half-finished conversations, emails, tasks. we live like we’re buffering. constantly loading, rarely landing. and somewhere in all that invisible friction, rest stopped being soft. it became something we had to deserve. something to earn back after performing productivity all week.
lately, i’ve been trying to unlearn that. and surprisingly, it started with how i spend my saturday mornings. not trying to fix myself. just remembering how to feel safe in my own body again. here’s the weekend ritual that’s saving my overstimulated brain — and how it begins not with hustle, but with a bed.
1. stop moving just because the world is
on saturday mornings, i try not to move. not in a fancy way — just ten minutes of stillness. no phone. no mental checklist. no instant reaching for what needs to be done next. just lying under the sheets and letting my body realize: we don’t have to be anywhere. it’s strange how difficult it is to be still on purpose. we’re conditioned to treat every pause like a problem. but stillness is not passive. it’s recovery. it’s resistance. and when i let myself lie there — not out of exhaustion but out of intention — it feels like the first good decision of the day.
2. reset the nightstand
i started doing this a few weekends ago — gently rearranging my nightstand while still half-wrapped in sheets. i clear off the receipts, the toddler sock, the five rogue hair ties. i stack a few books i’m trying to finish reading. i light a candle if i feel up to it. it takes three minutes, but it calms something primal in me. this isn’t cleaning. it’s curating. it’s saying: this is what i want to wake up to. this is what belongs in my soft life. and somehow, it changes how i feel in the room. like i’m allowed to be the kind of person who has space for stillness.
3. coffee, in bed, with no agenda
this is the real start of the ritual. coffee, made slowly — a pretentious matcha latte if i want to romanticize the moment, nespresso if i don’t. and then back to bed. because yes, the bed is the main character here.
i sit cross-legged, drink in hand, completely wrapped in the Brooklinen Classic Percale Hardcore Sheet Bundle in Fresh Moss. and listen — i’ve tried okay sheets. these aren’t that. these are crisp, breathable, smooth in a way that doesn’t cling. they feel like clean laundry but gentler. lighter. the percale weave keeps you cool without making the bed feel clinical. my husband (yes, a guy) noticed these sheets and prefers these out of all the sets of different sheets we have owned.
the color, too — this soft botanical green — makes my room feel like i’ve opened a window, even if i haven’t. i styled it with some beige linen pillowcases, and now it looks like a quiet airbnb in the south of france, except it’s just my rental apartment with a candle and less existential dread.
4. light something warm. stay horizontal.
i have a rotation of candles for this ritual. woody, smoky, barely-sweet ones that make the whole room feel like a library. i light one, put on a playlist (no lyrics allowed — soft jazz, ambient piano, rain sounds), and the space changes. it becomes a container for rest. this is when i read. sometimes i journal. sometimes i do nothing but lie there and stare at the ceiling, which i now count as an intentional nervous system practice. it’s in this moment that i remember what safety feels like. and i notice — my body isn’t performing anymore. not for work, not for the world, not even for myself.
5. wear the robe. stay unpresentable on purpose.
this part feels silly until it doesn’t: i have a robe that doesn’t match anything. it’s fraying at the sleeve and slightly stained from one too many morning oat lattes. but it’s mine. and when i wear it, something in me relaxes. being unpresentable is its own kind of safety. it’s the opposite of performance. and paired with the softness of your weekend bed — the mix-and-match tones, the wrinkled-but-clean feel of cotton that’s been lived in, some of your comfort books on the nightstand — it gives me permission to exist without improving.
6. romanticize what already exists
there was a time when i thought softness was a reward. something i’d get after finishing the to-do list, after clearing the inbox, after earning it but comfort isn’t a luxury. it’s a basic human need. and i don’t want to keep outsourcing it to spa days or self-care weekends. i want it stitched into my daily life — into my bed. Brooklinen’s Hardcore Bundle (my personal favourite) gives you the whole kit — fitted sheet, flat sheet, duvet cover, pillowcases — and you can mix and match colors so your bed doesn’t look like it was pulled from a catalog. it looks like yours. mine is styled around the Fresh Moss sheets, which genuinely make the room feel cooler, calmer, less like a space i collapse into and more like a space i return to.
7. barefoot grounding… on purpose
sometimes, around mid-morning, i walk onto the balcony barefoot. i stand there with my coffee (refill number two), and i let my feet touch the tile. nothing fancy. no yoga. just connection. toes against the floor, skin against something not synthetic. there’s something about touching the ground that reminds your brain: you’re here. not in the scroll. not in the schedule. just here. in a robe. drinking coffee. existing.
8. become a little difficult to reach
i don’t mean ghost your friends. i mean… mute your notifications. set your phone on a pillow and walk away. put on an album you love and pretend the internet doesn’t exist. disappear into the bed for an hour and let everyone think you’re on airplane mode. because sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is remove yourself from the feedback loop. not forever. just long enough to remember that your nervous system belongs to you. this is what the weekend bed has taught me. the world can wait. the text can wait. i can come back to the noise after i've come back to myself.
9. the 4 p.m. recline
sometime between the end of ambition and the start of dinner, i get back into bed — not to nap, but to pause. the sunlight hits just right, warm and low, and i let myself lie down with no goal except being still. sometimes there’s a snack, a book, a soft scroll. sometimes just breath. it’s not indulgent, it’s necessary. i call it the anti-hustle hour — a quiet rebellion against the idea that every part of the day must be useful. and i protect it like it’s church.
10. unmake the bed. get back in.
by evening, the bed looks gently undone — a little ruffled, a little lived-in, like a diary entry only i can read. i fluff the pillows again, pull the duvet back with both hands like a soft curtain closing on the day, and climb in one last time — this time not to pause, but to let go. there’s something deeply grounding about returning to the same space over and over across a single day — not as a reset, but as a rhythm. like the bed becomes a witness to all the versions of me that showed up, softened, and slowly exhaled. it doesn’t feel like a place i collapse into anymore. it feels like a space i belong to.
a note, before you go
if your brain has been loud lately… if your nervous system feels like it’s sprinting even when you’re lying still… maybe start with the bed. remake it. rebuild it. choose one thing that brings your body ease and see what shifts.
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because softness isn’t selfish. it’s essential.
and you’re allowed to build a life around it.
I generally like your essays, but this narrative seems force fitted around the bedsheets and feels like an advertisement
What I love most is how you've deconstructed the mythology around earning comfort. The line "comfort isn't a luxury it's a basic human need" should be printed on billboards.