here’s the thing—work is draining. whether you love your job or dread your 9-to-5, by the time you shut your laptop or walk out of the office, you’re left feeling like someone hit the pause button on life. days start to blur together, and before you know it, the monotony seeps in—the rot.
and the rot, my friends, is what we’re here to talk about today. the feeling that you’re just... existing. sure, you're meeting deadlines, checking boxes, being a functioning adult. but the joy? the vibrance? it starts to fizzle out, and we don't even notice it's happening until it's too late. the fix? an intentional after-work routine designed to make you feel alive again.
so, let's break it down.
phase one: unwind, but don't collapse
the first instinct after a long day is to plop down on the couch and scroll your life away. i get it—i’ve been there, more times than i’d care to admit. but here's the catch: doing nothing for hours on end, while it feels like relaxation, is actually the perfect recipe for the rot. you start to feel sluggish, uninspired, and like you’re losing precious time. instead, try this: replace your doom-scrolling with something that feels like it’s for you.
maybe it’s 15 minutes of journaling, a chapter of that book you've been meaning to start, or even just a quick stretch or walk. the key is to shift your mind from work mode into you mode, without letting yourself fall into the couch vortex. think of it as a soft landing after the intensity of the day.
phase two: the recharge activity
this is where you breathe life back into yourself. ask yourself: what activity actually excites me, even after a long day? for some, it’s a workout. (endless props to you, fitness gods.) for others, it might be cooking a meal from scratch, learning a new skill, or even diving into a hobby you’ve neglected.
the goal here is simple: give yourself something to look forward to. it doesn’t need to be grand. it can be as simple as trying a new recipe, painting your nails while listening to a podcast, or testing out a new skincare routine. just make sure it’s something that pulls you out of autopilot.
phase three: the transition ritual
as someone who’s constantly juggling between work, home life, and my million side projects, i realized that without a proper transition, work stress sticks to you like glue. it lingers in the back of your mind, messing with your chill.
the fix? a solid transition ritual. this could be anything from changing into your comfiest clothes, lighting a candle, brewing some herbal tea, or even putting on a specific playlist that screams post-work bliss. think of this as a signal to your brain that work is done and you’re officially entering “me-time.”
phase four: unplug intentionally
if you're like me, screens dominate your day. but here’s the trick—your evenings don’t have to be more of the same. try setting a tech curfew. maybe it’s 30 minutes before bed, maybe it’s an hour. the point is, give yourself time away from the constant pings and notifications.
this is your window to slow down—read that book, indulge in your skincare routine, write down your thoughts, or just sit in the quiet for a second. it’s all about creating space between you and the digital world before the day comes to a close.
phase five: the reset
we all know that the morning sets the tone for the day. but what if i told you that the night before holds equal power? it’s all about creating a reset ritual before bed.
this can be something as simple as planning out your next day (without obsessing, of course), tidying up your space, or practicing gratitude for what went well that day. the idea here is to go to bed feeling prepared, peaceful, and at ease. that way, you wake up not only refreshed but also a step ahead, knowing that you’ve got this.
the key to an anti-rot after-work routine is to make sure it’s yours. routines are meant to bring peace, not pressure. if something doesn't feel right, switch it up. it's all about finding small moments that make you feel like you're reclaiming your time and shaking off the day's stress.
because at the end of the day, the rot isn’t inevitable. it’s just a reminder to slow down, re-evaluate, and give yourself the care you deserve. so, here’s to routines that make us feel human again.
Love love love this! Taking walks immediately after I close my screen is my essential ritual so I completely understand unplugging but not rotting. There can be a balance!
I keep telling myself I'm going to try doing one spontaneous thing a week before work starts, but this is a much better idea! Usually I just come home, eat, and Substack or sit on TikTok. It didn't occur to me that the night before can set the tone for the morning of.