i was thinking the same. i have been feeling ALL of that, for a while (years i mean) and i’m not in my twenties, nor thirties. but i have been in that state for a long time especially the last 12 months with the last 3 being turned up to 11. i just want to be. i want to get used to the blurriness of the coming years. i want to take that fork in the road or maybe that one too. i still feel attached to things but i’m slowly peeling myself away (anxiously). i could reread the article 20 more times and still feel it penetrating some hidden nooks of me i didn’t even know existed.
I, too, oscillate between a sturdy belief in the things to come and absolute fear for what I’m leaving behind every single day. Somedays I adamantly ignore the inner noise and just take a step forward - in whatever direction I am able to go that day. Posts like this, and the community it summons, make me feel seen and understood even when I cannot find tangible words to tell who I’m becoming.
I’ve been living in this exact space — tea in hand, life paused, unsure what comes next. And for the first time, I’m learning to not rush clarity. This piece was like someone holding a lantern at the edge of the fog saying, “It’s okay. Take your time.” So grateful for this.
I’m days away from being 70 years old. I just thought all this confusion and feeling lost was my fear of aging. That has not felt accurate as the only reason. I think my younger self just realized I was so busy surviving in the world I struggled to live in I missed the part where I got to say this is not what I want anymore. Now Im working on recovery from who I became and what I want myself to be. ❤️🩹
it's crazy how we've been conditioned by culture and society to perform and always have this facade of having it all figured out and constantly moving even in private.
dang, now this is making me think of dropping one of my daily to do lists and just see where the day takes me.
This is exactly what I needed at the moment. I was panicking about the ambiguities in my life when I saw this. I felt so much better after reading, thank you so much 💓
Oh my goodness - just such a massive yes to all of this, thank you ♥️ It’s actually insane.. momentum is seen as EVERYTHING and standing still for any length of time is interpreted as laziness or failure. No wonder so many of us grow up feeling so confused and discombobulated!
I love this comment - my lack of momentum for a mere couple of days this week have been internalised as laziness when I finally can slow down for the first time in my adult life. WILD.
Isn’t it insane! It feels like it’s some sort of moral compass keeping us on track when it’s actually internalised capitalism driving us into the ground.
I don't know why I feel teary after reading this. Maybe it's just what I needed right now. I felt so connected to the article. I'll trust the process, and not let the slowness of things in my life get to me anymore. Thank you for this! 🥹❤️
Thank you for this, I needed it. I’ve felt very lost for a long time and still hoping, after many cups of tea in moments of stillness, I’ll figure it out.
I’m surprised by how difficult it has been to shed the layers, most specifically the ones in the wellness culture that pathologize confusion, disorientation, loss of zest for life, lack of direction, lack of purpose. After the quieting down of the voices of the general overculture, these were the next giants to slay, on the road to letting my self just BE!
Your words are a life line to me this morning. An echo of my soul! A responding YES of my heart! A another permission slip to trust my body which has been sending me more direct messages that it wants off all the hamster wheels. 🤍
i definitely in the last few years of my life have felt a complete disconnect from the wellness culture, when for many years before it was all i tuned into and relied on. i’m happy to have broken off from it.
Yeah, I really love that this piece pointed out how wellness culture has created this strange emphasis on how even healing has become a branding/marketing element. That needed to be said.
I’m stumped. How and when did you enter my mind and read it? 😂 Transformation can be lonely. This made me feel less so today. 😊
i was thinking the same. i have been feeling ALL of that, for a while (years i mean) and i’m not in my twenties, nor thirties. but i have been in that state for a long time especially the last 12 months with the last 3 being turned up to 11. i just want to be. i want to get used to the blurriness of the coming years. i want to take that fork in the road or maybe that one too. i still feel attached to things but i’m slowly peeling myself away (anxiously). i could reread the article 20 more times and still feel it penetrating some hidden nooks of me i didn’t even know existed.
I, too, oscillate between a sturdy belief in the things to come and absolute fear for what I’m leaving behind every single day. Somedays I adamantly ignore the inner noise and just take a step forward - in whatever direction I am able to go that day. Posts like this, and the community it summons, make me feel seen and understood even when I cannot find tangible words to tell who I’m becoming.
Transformation can be lonely. Wow. THOSE are the words I needed today. 🫶🏼
I needed this so badly. Thank you
This was just what I needed today. Tomorrow. Whatever stage of life we're in, these moments will come. Thank you for sharing this.
I’ve been living in this exact space — tea in hand, life paused, unsure what comes next. And for the first time, I’m learning to not rush clarity. This piece was like someone holding a lantern at the edge of the fog saying, “It’s okay. Take your time.” So grateful for this.
Completely agree 💛
That's so well-put, the lantern at the edge of the fog metaphor. That's how I felt, too. So comforting and reassuring.
I’m days away from being 70 years old. I just thought all this confusion and feeling lost was my fear of aging. That has not felt accurate as the only reason. I think my younger self just realized I was so busy surviving in the world I struggled to live in I missed the part where I got to say this is not what I want anymore. Now Im working on recovery from who I became and what I want myself to be. ❤️🩹
it's crazy how we've been conditioned by culture and society to perform and always have this facade of having it all figured out and constantly moving even in private.
dang, now this is making me think of dropping one of my daily to do lists and just see where the day takes me.
JESUS, the timing of me reading this and just subscribing yesterday is NUTS!!!! Beautiful piece, thank you!
Same!! It wasn't by accident.
This showed up in my feed a month after being written but in the perfect timing. This piece was what I am wading through.
This is exactly what I needed at the moment. I was panicking about the ambiguities in my life when I saw this. I felt so much better after reading, thank you so much 💓
Oh my goodness - just such a massive yes to all of this, thank you ♥️ It’s actually insane.. momentum is seen as EVERYTHING and standing still for any length of time is interpreted as laziness or failure. No wonder so many of us grow up feeling so confused and discombobulated!
I love this comment - my lack of momentum for a mere couple of days this week have been internalised as laziness when I finally can slow down for the first time in my adult life. WILD.
Isn’t it insane! It feels like it’s some sort of moral compass keeping us on track when it’s actually internalised capitalism driving us into the ground.
It is utter insanity. Let us be freeee!!
I don't know why I feel teary after reading this. Maybe it's just what I needed right now. I felt so connected to the article. I'll trust the process, and not let the slowness of things in my life get to me anymore. Thank you for this! 🥹❤️
Thank you for this, I needed it. I’ve felt very lost for a long time and still hoping, after many cups of tea in moments of stillness, I’ll figure it out.
What if you just want to be?
I’m surprised by how difficult it has been to shed the layers, most specifically the ones in the wellness culture that pathologize confusion, disorientation, loss of zest for life, lack of direction, lack of purpose. After the quieting down of the voices of the general overculture, these were the next giants to slay, on the road to letting my self just BE!
Your words are a life line to me this morning. An echo of my soul! A responding YES of my heart! A another permission slip to trust my body which has been sending me more direct messages that it wants off all the hamster wheels. 🤍
i definitely in the last few years of my life have felt a complete disconnect from the wellness culture, when for many years before it was all i tuned into and relied on. i’m happy to have broken off from it.
Yeah, I really love that this piece pointed out how wellness culture has created this strange emphasis on how even healing has become a branding/marketing element. That needed to be said.
That’s amazing. Good for you. I’ll bet you are so much happier. 💗
I felt Belonging while reading this it made my day thanks💗
Stunning articulation of liminality! Thank you for giving permission to be and stay a little lost 😭
this this this!! it resonated so much, and gave so much comfort.
This is exactly where I am.
I so badly needed to hear this, so beautifully well said!! 🫶